By Andrew James Miller
1. You learn from failure.
-Success doesn't teach you half of what failure teaches you. Failure shows you what you have yet to learn, ways you can improve, and (if you let it) can be the best stepping stone to success. However, if you take your failure personally and refuse to learn from it, the would-be stepping stone gets tied around your neck and you get hurled into the ocean. You have to be able to step back from the inherent emotional risks of failure and look for the lessons, or fear will consume you. You must also remember that failure will tend to effect you emotionally if you stake your entire identity on the project in question: be sure to work towards success in other areas of your life so a failing in one can be taken as a learning experience; it's difficult to learn when your entire foundation for your identity has dropped out.
2. Failures show that you're pushing yourself.
-People who push the boundaries of their talents and constantly learn and grow tend to succeed. If you haven't made a mistake, had a failure, you're probably staying well within your comfort zone and not fulfilling your potential. If something scares you, do it. Fear of failure can be crippling, but only if you run away from it. If you run towards the projects you fear the most, you'll grow exponentially. Yes, you might fail dismally, but you might be more creative and ingenious than you think and be able to figure it out. Either way, you've learned and grown, if you have the right attitude about failure.
3. Small failures keep you from catastrophic failures.
-Once you make a mistake on a small scale and learn from it, you are unlikely to make the same mistake on a larger scale. Imagine a visionary architect who sets out to build a building that seems impossible to most other architects. He draws dozens of pictures of the building, and is constantly changing and refining his design. He builds scale models. He shows the ideas to his friends and illicit their advice. He does the math, researches different building materials and finally has the complete picture and builds the impossible building. What's he done here? He's essentially failed over and over again. When his colleagues tell him a certain part of the building won't work, he's failed a little bit. As he draws and refines the building, the design changes as he fails to get the correct design, over and over again. Perhaps he has to scrap the whole basis of the idea and start clean.He failed. Perhaps he realizes while he's making the scale models that something aspect of the building needs to change. Back to the drawing board, he's failed. But finally, when he's done due diligence and the building is built, it's beautiful. It's a success. All the small setbacks and mistakes - all of the small failures - have kept the final building from being a failure. Imagine if the architect just went to the building site and winged it. He would be pulling a lot of nails.
4.Failures change your behavior for good.
-Speaking of architects, there's a house in town that is a fine example of a huge, resounding failure. It's a big, beautiful high-end house, and it sits, nearly finished, on a mound of dirt in a nice section of town. The exterior is done, all of the new windows are in. But they've halted production; the inside may never be finished, and the yard has gone to weeds. Why? There's a limit set by the local homeowner's association as to how tall a house can be, and this house exceeds the limit by several feet. Construction has been halted indefinitely. Now, you would think that someone would have checked the requirements for houses in the neighborhood - the contractor, the architect, the unfortunate people who are paying for this mess - but no one did, and now this huge, expensive, failure of a house sits vacant in the lot, while the weeds grow up around it.
But let me ask you: if these people ever build another house, do you think they'll forget to check? Not a snowball's chance in July. The extremely expensive mistake they made (Dave Ramsey calls it "Stupid Tax") has indelibly burnt this into their minds. They probably would check the policies multiple times, consult and throughly impress the fact that their house must be under a certain hight with the architect, and be out on the building site with a tape measure, just to make sure. They will never make the same mistake again, because their failure has changed their behavior. Pain has a way of doing that.
5."Remember that failure is an event, not a person." - Zig Zigler
-This is very important for your well-being. You're not a failure. You have to impress this into your mind. Write it on your hand. Put it on your desktop. This idea gives you permission to try as hard as you can and fail miserably. It's ok, you're not a failure. You can just try again. Finished your first novel and everyone who reads it tells you not to quit your day job? It's ok, the novel may have failed, but you aren't a failure. You can go on to the next thing, and the next thing, as many as it takes. Labels are hard to get rid of, but events you can move past really quickly. Failure is an event. Accept it as it is, learn what you can, change your behavior if needed, and keep moving.
What happened after I got the F on the math test? I went crazy. I'm no morning person, but I started getting up a 6:00 to do a set of math problems every morning. I made flash cards. I wrote down everything the teacher said. I aced the next test. I was able to learn from the failure, and was better off for it.
Andrew Miller is an artist and writer devoted to helping other artists overcome their creative blocks, even while overcoming his own. If you would like more free, awesome info that will help you revitalize your artistic career, overcome creative blocks, and discover (or rediscover) your passion for art, check out http://www.artisticadd.com. If you would like more articles like this delivered to your mailbox, sign up here: http://eepurl.com/esnFk
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